While I’m no expert, I’ve been a sugar baby for a couple of years. I’ve my first one since day one, and I have two other ones. I’ve raised by allowance by $6,000 plus getting a larger apartment (with Objection) and I’ve made mistakes with other ex sugar daddies. I know what to look out for, and jump in to. So here is a short guide to sugar daddies.
First of all… What IS a Sugar Daddy?
A sugar daddy is an older man who gives you allowances and/or gifts in exchange for your companionship.
Where Can I Find a Sugar Daddy?
That depends. Some women have found Sugar Daddies by accident. (That was my first experience)… Others join Sugar Daddy dating sites. Some are better than others, so I’d definitely recommend looking and shopping around. Simple google searches can yield specific criteria you’re needing!
How Should I Act?
Always be polite and always be classy. No Sugar Daddy I have met wants a woman who acts like she’s too good for anybody but herself. If you’re working minimum wage, be grateful these men are giving you their time. I always treat my Sugar Daddies like they’re one in a million. I don’t act crude around them, but rather respectful and educated. When a sugar daddy messages me “Hi, how are you?” my response is usually “Hey! Having a great day so far.” verse “Heyyy, havin a gr8 daiiii.”
What If My Potential SD Wants To Meet?
Do you feel comfortable speaking with your sugar daddy? Google him, google his business, dig a little deeper. Ask questions. If he says he’s the CEO of X company, you should be able to find him. If you can’t, look some more. Call where he works (debatable). Find out what you can. The last thing you want to do is go on a date with a fake. Talk with him on the phone, skype him; make sure you above all else feel safe with this.
Where Should We Meet?
Common sense should be used here. In a public place. Not in a hotel. Not in secluded area. In a public spot. Preferably during the day. I’m not trying to scare anyone else, but you can never be too safe. I used to live in NYC, so guess where I meet my potentials? Central Park and Coffee shops
What If He Wants To Fly Me To Him?
Again, be careful. I’ve flown to Korea to meet my ex sugar daddy, but I wasn’t as careful as I should have been. Always make sure you know the person. Try and get a hotel by yourself to stay in. Don’t stay in their homes. Make sure you know some of the language.
I’m Not Sexually Attracted To My Sugar Daddy, But He Wants Sex?
Make your intentions clear. You don’t want to waste either of your time, do you? If he wants sex and you’re not willing to do that, then let him know you value him as a person, but you’re not ready to make that step with him. Truth be told, a lot of Sugar Daddies wont be happy with that answer. Sometimes, we stay with unattractive sugar babies because the relationship is more beneficial than other offers.
My Sugar Daddy Is Married?
Most sugar daddies are married. Whether you want to be with a married man is up to you. Some have problems with it, some don’t. Some men aren’t in a happy relationship, some men just want to spoil other women. The fact is, you’ll be a lot of it. A lot of these men just need something else they’re missing at home.
My Sugar Daddy Wants To Know How Much I Want As An Allowance?
You need to make your price very clear and work from there. The trouble is, a lot of Sugar Babies are scared to speak out… If you have a price you will only accept, then let him know how much you want. However, I usually like to ask how much they expect to give. For example:
SD: “How much were you thinking for an allowance?”
Me: “Well, how much would you like to help?”
SD: “I can do $3,000”
Me: (If I’m OK With This) “That’s very generous of you, SD.”
Me: (If I’m NOT OK With This) “Hmmm, that would help me out an awful lot. I just hope it’s enough to cover X (phone,car,rent)”
SD: “How much extra will you need to cover X”
Me: “I think 1000 would be perfect”
I Want More Money Than My Allowance, How Can I Raise it?
First of all, are you just being greedy, or has something in your life changed where you need the money? Asking for $5,000 extra because you just want more is greedy. Remember that most of these men work(ed) hard for their money and have their own lives to support. At the end of the day, if you get too greedy, they can easily drop you and find a new sugar baby to spoil. You’re not be all and end all.
However, sometimes circumstances do change. My allowance was raised significantly when I told my SD that I was enrolling in school. I was very honest with him and let him know how much I was struggling. I told him about all the costs, and what his allowance was covering, and what I needed. I let him know it didn’t even have to be long term.
If you really want more money and your SD doesn’t want to give you more, then don’t be angry. If you need it, then find another SD. Or get a job.
How Much Should I Expect?
For each person it’s a different answer. Where do you live? What do you expect? Is he paying your rent? Is he buying you presents? Are you being paid monthly or per visit? In the past, my sugar daddies were paying upwards of 8000 because I was living in the heart of NYC and the cost of living was so high. That didn’t include extras like gifts.
What Should I NOT Do With My Sugar Daddy?
Expect too much for too little. Don’t act like a complete diva and then ask for the world. Don’t make time but once a month for your SD and then expect him to pay rent, gifts and your allowances and bills. I made this mistake myself when with one of my ex SD’s. At that time it was getting into my head that these men wanted to pay me to be with me because I was interesting, smart, and beautiful. I thought that I could do what I wanted and when I pleased. I had a very nice SD who was willing to pay a large allowance and take me nice places, but I was too stuck up (at that time) and he ended up walking off. I’m back to reality now. But don’t lose yourself. It’s easy to get wrapped up in all the money.
Is Being A SB Like Prostitution?
Do you think it is? A lot of people get wrapped up in the fact that Sugar Babies have sex. However, there is nothing wrong with having sex. We don’t have sex and then get paid. It’s a lot more complicated than that. Have a gander over here for more information.
I’m Now Financially Dependent On My Sugar Daddy & I’m Stuck/Lost/Trapped. Help!
I’ve had friends in situations where her SD had control over her life. If you feel this is true for you, or it is getting to that stage, start saving now. Put the money he gives you into a savings account and stop living so lavishly. Find a new, cheaper apartment. Don’t buy new clothes for that month. Switch to basic cable. Don’t take taxi’s and walk/ride a bike. These are difficult changes to make, but if you want to be independent again, you need to make these changes today.A lot of girls end up piss poor and stomped on when their sugar daddies get bored. Save now, even if you don’t see this coming anytime soon. I already have a shit ton of money saved up just in case. You should too! I cover this extensively here!
Will My Jealousy is natural in these type of situations. Just remember that these men are not committed to you, and neither are you to them.
Will I Fall In Love With My Sugar Daddy?
Do you want a commitment and does he? Is this mutual? If so, then go for it if it’s right for you. If not, then reevaluate the relationship between you. Maybe it’s time to find a new sugar daddy if you can’t bare the thought of him being with his wife and not you. Emotionally distance yourself, even. Set emotional boundaries with sugar daddies.