Yesterday I received a message from a young woman asking for help. B confided that she had tried sugardaddy4me and craigslist, and yet all these men just wanted sex, or thought being a sugar baby was essentially just a high class hooker / escort.
“How do I attract real sugar daddies?” She asked. Like many sugar babies, she wanted more than sex. She wanted someone to pamper and take care of her.
Like before, this is a problem a handful of SB’s will face in their dating time. They’re looking for a good Sugar Daddy who will treat them right, and none are coming through. They think you’re a prostitute and they can just pay you and be on their merry way.
YOU are NOT a prostitute. YOU’RE a DESERVING woman. DON’T LET A MAN TREAT YOU LIKE A HOOKER.
The above is bold, because it’s extremely important. If you act like a high class hooker, you’ll be one, and be treated like one. Raise your expectations, and raise your own level. Challenge yourself.
For example, if in your profile, you are putting: “I love to party and have fun, I’m really wild / I like to have a good time and have fun.” Or even worse “I’m a sexual person / I love sex.” You’re giving the message that you’re a slut. The men who message you wont respect you, and you give the message you don’t respect you either. You want to word yourself better. “I enjoy going out occasionally with friends and having fun, but I prefer to cuddle up and watch a good comedy.” Don’t mention sex at all. It’s not appropriate. Mention you are looking for a man to take care of you for a long term arrangement and that you love a man who will spoil you with trips and shopping sprees.
Your profile picture should show you’re a respectable woman. Don’t post
a picture of you partying. Although you may be the one who looks the most proper, and the one without a drink in your hand, your friends are the ones who are hurting your chances here. With this picture, one girl has her boob half hanging out, another has her stomach showing, and the other one has a short skirt and drink in her hand. The only one who looks decent is the one in the black dress. However, after seeing her with the friends she’s with, people will make unfair assumptions and judgments about who she is. The same goes for you, and what your profile
Here is another picture of two friends at a restraunt. Although you cannot see their faces, they’re not making the “duck” or “kissy” face like the other girls are. They’re smiling nicely, and look they’re having an enjoyable time together. They seem like a nice couple of girls. Aim to post pictures that look like you’re a nice girl, or even high maintenance. (Standing with Chanel bag, anyone?)
If a man messages you and seems seedy, then he probably is. Google him. Look him up. See what he does. When he sends you pictures, look at his clothes. Is he wearing a suit? Is he wearing a watch? Anything else? Look for significant cues!
Lastly, DO NOT USE CRAIGSLIST! Craigslist is the mecca for men looking for a one night stand. You will not find a reputable SD on Craigslist. Or even a reputable man. Sugardaddy4me is OK, but It’s not that great. First, it makes the sugar baby pay if she wants basic features. The men don’t have to pay if they want (from what I remember about that site.) Websites like SeekingArrangement.com is good. SD’s have to pay 50$, and then over 1,000 to be a gold member. Established Men is decent from what one of my readers have told me, and SeekingMillionare isn’t bad either. Just keep a keen eye, and a sharp mind and more importantly, don’t settle for less than you deserve.
(Note: If you would like a second opinion, you can email me at firstname.lastname@example.org or send me a message on facebook. Your identity will be kept 100% confidential and will never be revealed to anybody else. I will immediately delete your picture afterward. This is only for an opinion, and tips / pointers on what you could change to make it better and to help you. I know the importance of keeping anon, and I respect that 100%)