The Married Sugar Daddies. DO or DON’T?

Before you read, remember Q&A Wednesday is coming up!  So far I have but two questions.  If I don’t get at least 10, I’ll be holding off Q&A until next week – so ask away!

A lot of women find that when you come into the Sugar bowl, a married man comes along with the territory.  Married sugar daddies are not uncommon, and sometimes preferred in the SB community. I’m willing to bet that 50% of all sugar daddies are married or attached in some way to a significant other….  Many women though don’t know how to feel when it comes to married sugar daddies. Should they or shouldn’t they?  I’m not going to try and sway you one way or the other, as I’m sure most of you know my feelings about being with married sugar daddies (or at least, if you’ve been reading for awhile) you’re also free to give your opinion in the poll below! but here are some things to consider when dealing with a married sugar daddy.


  • Your married sugar daddy will always have to “fit you in” to his schedule meaning no spontaneity. Schedules can easily change also.  Your plans for 5pm Wednesday can change to next week on Wednesday morning, or maybe even a couple of hours before your arranged meeting. Why? Because married sugar daddies have priorities, and you’re behind his family on that list whether you like it or mot. Maybe if you’re a person who likes planning and not being surprised, then this may be good for you. For others with hectic schedules and lives, not so much.
  • Your married sugar daddy will possibly not see you much at all. This is great for some, but for others who want to go on trips and take nice vacations, you’d be lucky!
  • your married sugar daddy will not want to hear about your life. Look ladies, sometimes you will find the married sugar daddy who does want to hear about your day, and what you’ve been up too. But they get this from their wives at home regardless. They’re not looking for a second wife. They’re looking for a young lady to enjoy. Maybe if you’re not wanting anything too special, this would be good for you, but I personally feel that it’s harder to converse with someone when you’re trying to watch what slips and what doesn’t.
  • Your married sugar daddy will have to be very careful at all times. He doesn’t want to get caught with you, and even if his wife is aware of his SD status, she more than likely doesn’t want to know about it. Being secretive and low key is essential.  Being sneaky, especially if you live close to your SD, and being careful is paramount.  This may mean that your sugar daddy will have to cancel on you, have to leave last minute, will not respond to texts or calls right away (or even allow you to text or call. Being careful not to leave any trace of you is vital.  If you like being sneaky and playing games, then great. If you don’t like having to look over your shoulder, not so great.
  • Your married sugar daddy will sometimes take calls, show pictures or speak about his wife, children and home life from time to time. If you don’t like being the center of attention, it’s not for you.
  • Your married sugar daddy will never leave his wife for you. I’ve seen a friend in a position where she fell in love her with married SD.  It was a horrible situation and it ended badly. Usually there is little room for growth of a relationship with a married sugar daddy, but, if it comes too it, you must be willing to say goodbye too him.
  • Your married sugar daddy will always put you last.  Like I said with the first point. You’re not number one too him. Family means more. I’ve read a handful of SB blogs where the married man would drop the woman because somethings came up at home. Either his wife found out, or something family related came up and they decided they couldn’t afford you anymore.
  • A married sugar daddy may have higher standards for a sugar baby.  If he’s risking his marriage for you, then you have to be something special. You have to keep it fresh, keep it burning and keep it exciting. A married SD will not just pick up anybody he finds.  The extra pressure of being so “special” can be hard for some girls.


Some Sugar Babies make their own personal choice to either be with married men without the sex, or not be with married men at all. Others prefer being with married men.  It’s a personal choice, but something to think hard about. His wife will always be there and there is nothing you can do to make it go away. If the pressure and guilt it too much, then let it go and find someone else.

Anyway, these are just a few of my opinions about married sugar daddies.  If you’d like to share your own opinion, please feel free to comment below!



5 thoughts on “The Married Sugar Daddies. DO or DON’T?

  1. I would personaly prefer a married man. I have dreams and goals myself tht do not include a lng term relationship.. It makes it easier to stay emotionally uninvolved and still hav fun 🙂 the way I see it.. They come to me, nt vice versa. If not me thn it would be someone else right? Right 🙂

  2. I have always avoided married men due to the fact allowance was minimal so their mrs didnt notice (£150 for an overnight stay and no money any other person time. I said no)
    However im currently 7 weeks into an arrangement with a married man. He wanted companionship only, then interested in intimacy further along. He gave me 150 for drinks and more for intimacy. Some may argue its not sugarbaby like and fair enough but in my experience men arent happy to pay 500-1000 per date/weekend for a period of time without intimacy.

    Married is good, I dont easily develop feelings so its perfect…if he isnt cheap

  3. Its no suprise to see how many people voted that they would sleep with a married man. It does not matter how much money im getting paid….its wrong and theres always the potential of ruining a family especially if he has children. If i got married i would be pissed if my husband cheated and some b***encouraged him we would be divorced the next day. To each its own.

  4. Almost a year later I am still in the arrangement with the married man. It has been mostly platonic and has included several months apart. I appreciate many think its wrong but his married isnt stimulating him mentally emotionally or physically and I doubt he is with her either. Its empty and I think its a case of better together than alone.

    Sometimes arrangements keep marriages alive and sometimes they keep them acceptable or content.

    Other marriages may fullfill them love wise family wise and all the rest but there is no excitement passion no lust none of the things that keeps the twinkle in your eye. Maybe without the thing that brings that marriage would end when it neednt I don’t doubt they still absolutely love their wife, no doubt at all.

    I guess in marriage from many conversations ive had with men and women people stop caring people stop putting in effort people just are and let things be and plod along barely content.

    Its an interesting subject

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