One of the most frequent questions I get is along the lines of:
“My sugar daddy is not attractive, but he’s willing to give me a generous amount of money. What should I do?” It was also a common Q&A Wednesday question when I used to still do those for my blog. Unfortunately, Q&A Wednesday posts weren’t very searchable and questions I’d answered were still asked. I think this deserves a blog post anyway, as it’s such a strong question.
So what do you do if you potential sugar daddy looks like this?
First of all, you’re not alone. A huge issue that Sugar Babies face is the fact that their Sugar Daddy isn’t always attractive. The trade off doesn’t always seem fair at first glance. You’re gorgeous, young and free. You have your whole life ahead of you. Him? He’s gray and his children older than you, he’s overweight and has a handlebar mustache. He’s not exactly George Clooney, however, the allowance he’s offering you is very, very generous.
Each one of you Cupcakes are different, some will take the route of a smaller allowance in return for a much more attractive Sugar Daddy, others will just take what they can in the name of a huge allowance. So, what do you do? How do you make this decision?
Now that I’m raking in much less financially, personally, I’d be willing to date a not – so – attractive SD if the price was right, and maybe other SB’s do/are too. Instead of focusing on their faces, I try to focus on other things I find attractive about them. For example, do they donate to charity? I find that sexy. Are they funny? I love funny people, laughter is always so contagious. Remember that while what’s on the outside is the main ingredient to a SB/SD arrangement, it’s who we are that makes up the filling and pours out to the surface sometimes, even for the most disciplined Sugar Babies.
So, now you and the guy who is old enough to be your grandfather are wining and dining at a beautiful restaurant on your first date. He’s funny, a true gentlemen, and is willing to spoil you senseless. He made you laugh and called your beautiful, he kissed your hand and although his mustache hairs kind of hurt, you took it anyway. These dates continue throughout the next few months, you both have sex, and although he doesn’t look good naked, either, he’s giving you 10k monthly for your time. You take it.
Fortunately, I believe there is a glitch in our minds. Or maybe at least mine. When I’m unattracted to a SD, I find other things I find attractive about him… Eventually, with time, he becomes more and more attractive and I’m fine with the way he looks, because I’m used to it.
Though, what happens if you don’t really like his personality, and he’s ugly too? Focus on the money. This is a mutually beneficial relationship, not a beneficial for you relationship. This man is paying for you time, he knows how important it is to you. However, in the same regards, you should be giving quality time. Being barely there isn’t really fair. If I was giving somebody an allowance monthly for them to barely act interested, I’d find someone else.
I feel like a lot of Sugar Babies blur lines sometime. We’re supposed to be independent, classy ladies in the real world. However, sometimes in the real world we have to do something we don’t want to do or be around people we don’t want to be around. It’s part of life. I feel like most of the time, Sugar Babies go into these SB relationships expecting something long term. Most of the time, this just wont happen. So, what is a few months/years of being with a sugar daddy who is willing to spoil you, and give you a life you’ve only dreamed of?
Are you being shallow? Not always. Some SB’s just don’t/won’t be with someone they don’t find attractive, and there is nothing wrong with that either. Having sex with someone you can barely stand to look at is an art. In order to find the answer to your own question, you must first list your priorities and what you truly want. That’s how you’ll find your answer.