Making A Great Profile & Avoiding Perverts

Yesterday I received a message from a young woman asking for help.  B confided that she had tried sugardaddy4me and craigslist, and yet all these men just wanted sex, or thought being a sugar baby was essentially just a high class hooker / escort.

“How do I attract real sugar daddies?”  She asked.  Like many sugar babies, she wanted more than sex. She wanted someone to pamper and take care of her.

Like before, this is a problem a handful of SB’s will face in their dating time. They’re looking for a good Sugar Daddy who will treat them right, and none are coming through. They think you’re a prostitute and they can just pay you and be on their merry way.

YOU are NOT a prostitute. YOU’RE a DESERVING woman.  DON’T LET A MAN TREAT YOU LIKE A HOOKER. 

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Sugar Baby Allowances

This blog post is also posted here.

I’ve recently received a message asking for help. A woman asked me what she needed to do now, as she had spent money that she didn’t really have, and put in time and effort with nothing to show for it. This is a common problem that quite a few sugar babes don’t know how to handle.

First of all, did he pay you on the first date? If not. Let him go immediately. If they don’t want to thank you for your time, they probably never will. Sugar daddies should always give you gifts or pay you on the first date. It’s only polite to do so.  Usually the amount will be anywhere from 200-800.  Less than 200 if he’s cheap, more than 800 if he’s generous.

If he has paid you, but hasn’t discussed the allowance yet, then bring it up.  Ask him if this is an arrangement he wants to pursue. If so, the SD will usually give you two options. Monthly or per visit arrangement. He may even decide one for you. Voice your opinion though. If nothing has been arranged, it needs to be.  You can be classy when bringing this up.  “X, we’ve been seeing each other for awhile now, and I was wondering if we would work out an arrangement. I would like a monthly allowance/per visit amount. The amount is negotiable / I would like FIXEDPRICEHERE.  If you have a problem with this amount, we could maybe arrange something else.”

Don’t be afraid to use your  voice. A man likes a strong woman. Not a dog.

If he has arranged payment, but isn’t giving it too you, you could ask what day of each month he will be paying you. For example, my ‘main’ SD, Objection, pays me the first time he sees me each month. For this month, it’s later tonight. If he is out of time, he either sends it via bank transfer or pays me in advance.  We worked this out early on in the relationship… If you have a date arranged and he doesn’t pay up. Again… Drop him! He isn’t worth it.

If money is a huge issue, then get more than one sugar daddy.  I have three, verging on four, and I’m still online meeting men.  Living in New York is expensive, and on top of that is school, and everything else.

Don’t spend money you don’t have, and when you do get your monetary gift when meeting a SD, if you must, put that toward your appearance. (If you can.) If you’re really hurting for cash, say so in your profile. Try not to sound desperate. “I’m a young professional barely making it in this recession.”  These men want to spoil you, they don’t want you pre-spoilt!   Recycle dresses, recycle shoes. Mix and match.

Remember that above all, you want to be a respectable young woman. Use good English, be appropriate, and treat yourself with respect.  If you respect yourself, these men will too.  Don’t act like an escort, don’t act like a prostitute, because these men are looking for proper ladies.

 

How To Get A Sugar Daddy 101

While I’m no expert, I’ve been a sugar baby for a couple of years. I’ve my first one since day one, and I have two other ones. I’ve raised by allowance by $6,000 plus getting a larger apartment (with Objection) and I’ve made mistakes with other ex sugar daddies. I know what to look out for, and jump in to.  So here is a short guide to sugar daddies.

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