Money, Allowances, and Gifts.. Sugar Baby Style!

Hello girls! I’ve been trying to play catch up with some of the questions I have received these past few months on my tumblr. I’ve stopped doing Q&A Wednesday, because it was too much to keep up with, plus harder to find on the blog. Plus, I really don’t have the energy to post much due to depression. Remember, I have sugar baby allowance guide if you haven’t read it already. These are not ALL the questions I’ve received, but these are the ones directed towards money.

I keep managing to attract new sugar daddies and me being a new sugar baby myself isn’t easy. The pressure is king of put on me to work out the details. I know the man is supposed to bring up the allowance however they keep asking me what I want. I don’t want to go to low or to high. Any advice?
Ask for what you feel is reasonable, and it varies for each person and each city. If you lived in a small town in Nevada, you probably wont be needing $1,000. However, L.A.? That may seem completely reasonable.  If you feel uncomfortable asking for “too much”, maybe you could explain what you need money for. (School, rent, debt, etc)
Hi Elsy, do you have to pay tax on the gifts that your sugar daddies give you?
Do you have to? No. I’ll be writing a more elaborate post on this soon.
Am in first official sd/sb relationship. he married, fine w/me. we agreed to a price b4 the first meeting. worked out well. lg story short I asked for xtra money (very hard travel expense and pet sitter. he gave that but next time, down to original price. he could not see me, offered to put money in my account (1/2 of orig/arrang). still could not meet. ask for deposit. (after he said he was sorry could not meet and he would make it up 2 me. how can i get raise w/o risk losing relationship
I’m not really sure what your whole post says exactly. It’s quite hard for me to tell what is really going on. From how it sounds, you made an arrangement with a guy, asked for extra for travel expensive for the first meeting, but he couldn’t see you the next time you were supposed to meet (so I’m guessing it’s a pay per meeting? not monthly?) but he still gave you 1/2, and he could not meet again, so you asked for a deposit and now you want a raise?????
I have heard of sugar daddies not paying their SB’s if they don’t see them, and I’m confused about why you’d want a raise after (as it seems) you’ve only been with your SD one time.
Should I lie about my needs? I can live on what I’m making (not lavishly). I live in Texas which is a less expensive city…however…I know this sugar baby gig won’t last for long, and I’d like to put some money away or invest for the future.
You could. That’s a personal preferance I’d guess.  Some men just like to pamper ladies, so you’ll accept the “I just want to be spoiled” answer. A lot of sugar babies will exaggerate their needs however.
Should I say I’m a student even if I’m not for more $$$?
You could. But some SDs like verification of you ACTUALLY being a student. 🙂
My SD isn’t really giving me the amount I want, and I’m wondering if I’m asking for to much or not enough. He’s offered to take care of me, take me shopping, get my hair done, but no cash (which is what I need) I think he wants me to be the only one…I can’t put all my eggs in one basket like that. It would cause me too much anxiety. How should I approach the subject? I don’t want to come off greedy and lose him, I really like him.
Perhaps you could bring up the fact that, although you love how much he pampers you, you really need to pay X over getting your hair done.  Some sugar babies are able to say “I’d rather just take the money, thanks.” Did you not work out this arrangement first? It’s better to judt be upfront about your needs vs. being passive over them and hoping for the best.

Tip of the Day!

Evaluate your options when dealing with allowances!   A couple of SB’s I know are dedicated to keeping monthly allowances. However their SD’s are set on a per meeting arrangement.  Girls, evaluate and look at your options. For example, if he is meeting you 4 times a month and giving you an allowance of 500-700, then I’d take that over the monthly allowance.  There is the chance you could be seeing him more than 4 times a month, and the possibility that the per visit allowance could be raised over time!  Add on an extra 50 each time, that’s an extra 200…  75? 300, and so fourth. Be open minded and smart!

However, be careful with these arrangements at the same time. If a SD is saying he will pay you 600 per meeting for four times a month, but decides to only see you two times instead, you need to either get a monthly arrangement set up or find a new SD!

Sugar Baby Allowances

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I’ve recently received a message asking for help. A woman asked me what she needed to do now, as she had spent money that she didn’t really have, and put in time and effort with nothing to show for it. This is a common problem that quite a few sugar babes don’t know how to handle.

First of all, did he pay you on the first date? If not. Let him go immediately. If they don’t want to thank you for your time, they probably never will. Sugar daddies should always give you gifts or pay you on the first date. It’s only polite to do so.  Usually the amount will be anywhere from 200-800.  Less than 200 if he’s cheap, more than 800 if he’s generous.

If he has paid you, but hasn’t discussed the allowance yet, then bring it up.  Ask him if this is an arrangement he wants to pursue. If so, the SD will usually give you two options. Monthly or per visit arrangement. He may even decide one for you. Voice your opinion though. If nothing has been arranged, it needs to be.  You can be classy when bringing this up.  “X, we’ve been seeing each other for awhile now, and I was wondering if we would work out an arrangement. I would like a monthly allowance/per visit amount. The amount is negotiable / I would like FIXEDPRICEHERE.  If you have a problem with this amount, we could maybe arrange something else.”

Don’t be afraid to use your  voice. A man likes a strong woman. Not a dog.

If he has arranged payment, but isn’t giving it too you, you could ask what day of each month he will be paying you. For example, my ‘main’ SD, Objection, pays me the first time he sees me each month. For this month, it’s later tonight. If he is out of time, he either sends it via bank transfer or pays me in advance.  We worked this out early on in the relationship… If you have a date arranged and he doesn’t pay up. Again… Drop him! He isn’t worth it.

If money is a huge issue, then get more than one sugar daddy.  I have three, verging on four, and I’m still online meeting men.  Living in New York is expensive, and on top of that is school, and everything else.

Don’t spend money you don’t have, and when you do get your monetary gift when meeting a SD, if you must, put that toward your appearance. (If you can.) If you’re really hurting for cash, say so in your profile. Try not to sound desperate. “I’m a young professional barely making it in this recession.”  These men want to spoil you, they don’t want you pre-spoilt!   Recycle dresses, recycle shoes. Mix and match.

Remember that above all, you want to be a respectable young woman. Use good English, be appropriate, and treat yourself with respect.  If you respect yourself, these men will too.  Don’t act like an escort, don’t act like a prostitute, because these men are looking for proper ladies.