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I’ve recently received a message asking for help. A woman asked me what she needed to do now, as she had spent money that she didn’t really have, and put in time and effort with nothing to show for it. This is a common problem that quite a few sugar babes don’t know how to handle.
First of all, did he pay you on the first date? If not. Let him go immediately. If they don’t want to thank you for your time, they probably never will. Sugar daddies should always give you gifts or pay you on the first date. It’s only polite to do so. Usually the amount will be anywhere from 200-800. Less than 200 if he’s cheap, more than 800 if he’s generous.
If he has paid you, but hasn’t discussed the allowance yet, then bring it up. Ask him if this is an arrangement he wants to pursue. If so, the SD will usually give you two options. Monthly or per visit arrangement. He may even decide one for you. Voice your opinion though. If nothing has been arranged, it needs to be. You can be classy when bringing this up. “X, we’ve been seeing each other for awhile now, and I was wondering if we would work out an arrangement. I would like a monthly allowance/per visit amount. The amount is negotiable / I would like FIXEDPRICEHERE. If you have a problem with this amount, we could maybe arrange something else.”
Don’t be afraid to use your voice. A man likes a strong woman. Not a dog.
If he has arranged payment, but isn’t giving it too you, you could ask what day of each month he will be paying you. For example, my ‘main’ SD, Objection, pays me the first time he sees me each month. For this month, it’s later tonight. If he is out of time, he either sends it via bank transfer or pays me in advance. We worked this out early on in the relationship… If you have a date arranged and he doesn’t pay up. Again… Drop him! He isn’t worth it.
If money is a huge issue, then get more than one sugar daddy. I have three, verging on four, and I’m still online meeting men. Living in New York is expensive, and on top of that is school, and everything else.
Don’t spend money you don’t have, and when you do get your monetary gift when meeting a SD, if you must, put that toward your appearance. (If you can.) If you’re really hurting for cash, say so in your profile. Try not to sound desperate. “I’m a young professional barely making it in this recession.” These men want to spoil you, they don’t want you pre-spoilt! Recycle dresses, recycle shoes. Mix and match.
Remember that above all, you want to be a respectable young woman. Use good English, be appropriate, and treat yourself with respect. If you respect yourself, these men will too. Don’t act like an escort, don’t act like a prostitute, because these men are looking for proper ladies.